Big Joy Fish here again. Today's provoking topic of discussion is: friendship.
Let's skip the cliche stuff and 'get into my head' for a second.
So I was hanging out with a group of girls that I've known for years, but at times feel like our knowledge of each other is often only skin deep. There's a lot of breadth but not a lot of depth, you know what I mean? Naturally, there are some in the group that I am closer to than others, and to some extent I wish we were all really good friends but reality is, we're not.
Now, what's stopping us from being better, even great friends?
(At this point, try to refrain from the typical responses like "well obviously some people click better than others" and "it's all about timing" as well as "if it's meant to be, it'll happen.")
A wise friend of mine once said, "relationships don't just 'happen.' Instead, they are a result of intentional and purposeful meetings between two people who mutually agree to invest their time, energy, and honesty to one another."
Realistically though, it's rare for two people to feel the same way about starting a friendship and I guess that's why we probably have more 'old friends' than 'new friends' at any given time. I know for myself that it's taken a lot of conscious effort this year to really invest in people around me and not get caught in feeling that "I have enough friends."
So how do you form new friendships and maintain old ones?
What would you suggest to someone who fears forming relationships?
(sorry, just thinking those questions 'out loud.')
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Saturday, November 15, 2008
Giving others & yourself a chance
Posted by bigjoyfish at 1:13 AM
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In my experience interest plays a big part in creating a friendship. Nnt being nosy but showing genuine interest in the other person. You'll see how much others will confide in you when they see there is someone willing to listen. Of course this works hand in hand with being trustworthy.
I always thought everyone was just like me. I am 52 yrs old and I have "pockets" of friends from all my life experiences, all the way back to Kindergarten. Friends from every school I attended, every job, every place I lived. I don't still have all the friends I had from those times in my life, but the stronger bonds have stayed with me throughout my life. I feel very fortunate to have so many good friends for so many decades, as well as new friends I have made since relocting from Chicago where I was born and raised to Arkansas.
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